GOD WILL RESTORE YOUR MARRIAGE
By Kristie & Connie

First let's talk about marriage:

MARRIAGE

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.Gen 2:24
And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain (NEVER AGAIN TWO), but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Matt 19:5-6
And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain (NEVER AGAIN TWO), but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Mark 10:8-9
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh (A NEW 'BEING' CREATED BY GOD - "ONE FLESH") Eph 5:31

DIVORCE
"For I hate divorce" says the Lord, the God of Israel, "and (I also hate) him who covers his garment with wrong," says the Lord of hosts. "So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously." Malachi 2:16

DATING AND GETTING MARRIED AGAIN

And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication and shall marry another, commiteth adultery, and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. Matt:19:9
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall putaway his wife, saving for the cause of fornication*, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. Matt 5:32
And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery. Mark 10:11
Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. Luke 16:18

NOW THAT YOU ARE DIVORCED

But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. 1 Cor 7:11
But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace…(v.39) The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to who she will; only in the Lord. 1 Cor 7:15
For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. Rom 7:2-3.

SCRIPTURE THAT APPLIES TO THE UNSAVED AND SAVED

For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that WHOSOEVER believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life. John 3:16
It hath been said WHOSOEVER shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: But I (Jesus) say unto you, That WHOSOEVER shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication*, causeth her to commit adultery; and WHOSOEVER shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. Matt 5:31,32
And I (Jesus) say unto you, WHOSOEVER shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication*, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and WHOSO marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. Matt 19:9
And He (Jesus) saith unto them, WHOSOEVER shall put away his wife, and marry another, commiteth adultery against her. Mark 10:11
WHOSOEVER putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and WHOSOEVER marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. Luke 16:18

WHAT HAPPENS TO ADULTERERS AND WHOREMONGERS?

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Heb 13:4

ADULTERERS ARE NOT IN THE KINGDOM OF GOD

Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. 1 Cor 6:9-10
Thou shalt not commit adultery. Exodus 20:14
Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's wife. Exodus 20:17
My son, keep my words, and lay up my commandments with thee. Keep my commandments, and live; and my law as the apple of thine eye. Prov 7:1-2
Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man. For God shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing, whether it be good, or whether it be evil. Eccles. 12:13-14
And he that keepeth his commandments dwelleth in him, and he in him. And hereby we know that he abideth in us, by the Spirit which he hath given us. 1 John 3:24

FORGIVENESS FOR ADULTERY

He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso CONFESSETH and FORSAKETH them shall have mercy. Prov 28:13
By MERCY and TRUTH iniquity is purged: and by THE FEAR OF THE LORD men depart from evil. Prov 16:6
He that followeth after RIGHTEOUSNESS and MERCY findeth life, righteousness, and honor. Prov 21:21

WHY DIVORCE HAPPENS

Because of hardness of heart. NOT adultery, abuse, strife, contentiousness, etc. Because of hardness of heart. Forgive your brother 7 x 70.

* Forinication would happen prior to marriage, prior to the betrothal time... For instance, a man would be bethrothed to a woman because of an arranged marriage or whatever.

A woman could be a virgin and still married because back when this command was written the groom would become bethrothed/married but the marriage was not consummated because the groom had to go back to his fathers house and prepare a place for his wife.

If a woman lost her virginity during that time that he was building her a place, then she was an adulterer.

If a woman turned out to be an adulterer on the wedding night, he could "put her away" and divorce her.

If a woman was an adulterer AFTER the consumnation of the marriage, she was stoned to death, and he was free to remarry.

Because only at death are we able to remarry and not be an adulterer.

Harsher back then than now, huh?

Here again, God promises us that His word will not return to Him void, it will do what it says. Think about this marriage standers, God said, "What I have joined together, let man not separate."
MORE:
Mar 10:9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Mar 10:9 Let not that which has been joined together by God be parted by man.
Mar 10:9 No human being must separate, then, what God has joined together."
Mar 10:9 Therefore what God has joined together, let not man put apart.

Can there be any other way to interpret this sentence spoken by God other then, what He joined together in marriage, no one can tear apart. And yes it is about marriage, it follows this scripture: Mar 10:6 But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.
Mar 10:7 For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife.
Mar 10:8 And the two of them shall be one flesh. So then they are no longer two, but one flesh.
Mar 10:9 Therefore what God has joined together, let not man put apart.

FURTHER MORE, IT FOLLOWS THIS SCRIPTURE: Mar 10:2 And tempting Him, the Pharisees came to Him and asked Him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife?
Mar 10:3 And He answered and said to them, What did Moses command you?
Mar 10:4 And they said, Moses allowed a bill of divorce to be written, and to put her away.
Mar 10:5 And Jesus answered and said to them, He wrote you this precept because of the hardness of your hearts.
Mar 10:6 But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.
Mar 10:7 For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife.
Mar 10:8 And the two of them shall be one flesh. So then they are no longer two, but one flesh.
Mar 10:9 Therefore what God has joined together, let not man put apart.

IMPORTANT NOTE HERE: Mar 10:5 And Jesus answered and said to them, He wrote you this precept because of the hardness of your hearts.

Hardness of hearts! Many try to quote the scriptures saying they can divorce if there is adultery. Problem is, the adultery clause was not the true reason Moses allowed divorce, and Jesus confirmed that it was not for the adultery, it was because of the hardness of hearts. This is because of logic, if both spouses hearts are hardened to one another, who will pray for the marriage, it becomes hopeless as far as the two spouses who are in it.

Jesus goes on to add this:
Mar 10:10 And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter.
Mar 10:11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
Mar 10:12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

Did you know that every word written in the bible is God breathed. Written my men of God as told to them by God, and that every word in the bible is a promise from God, good and bad. If you live wickedly and in sin, you have the promises of His wrath and a eternity in hell. If you are a child of God and you turn your back on Him, you are sealed in Him and He promises to leave 99 of flock to go after you the one, and when He does it is not pretty, read Isaiah to see how your Father will punish you for wandering off. He does so out of love, just as a earthly father will punish his child for their own good, to save them from themselves and their folly. Yes God said that no one can remove one of His children from His hand, and He means it, even if it hurts the child to bring them back...and any of you that have not suffered a whipping from the Lord Your God, I advise you not go there! So know that if your spouse has went the way of the prodigal son, he or she will be waking up in the pig pen and returning back to the Lord! Guaranteed! God promises such!

2Co 1:20 For all the promises of God in him are yea, and in him Amen, unto the glory of God by us.

Heb 6:12 That ye be not slothful, but followers of them who through faith and patience inherit the promises.

2Pe 1:4 Whereby are given unto us exceeding great and precious promises: that by these ye might be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust.

So, as you can see, we have nothing to fear. If God said it, it is..plain and simple, and if we speak what He has to say about it, it just is..plain and simple. The angels will go forth and perform it. So speak His word and know that it has erupted a great movement in the Heavens and it shall be performed just as He spoke it and you are returning it to Him to be performed.

One last scripture concerning your marriage. One of the most black and white words of God that I think there is in the bible concerning marriage and a husband leaving his wife.

Mal 2:13 This is another thing you do. You drown the LORD's altar with tears, weeping and wailing because he no longer accepts the offerings you bring him.
Mal 2:14 You ask why he no longer accepts them. It is because he knows you have broken your promise to the wife you married when you were young. She was your partner, and you have broken your promise to her, although you promised before God that you would be faithful to her.
Mal 2:15 Didn't God make you one body and spirit with her? What was his purpose in this? It was that you should have children who are truly God's people. So make sure that none of you breaks his promise to his wife.
Mal 2:16 "I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel. "I hate it when one of you does such a cruel thing to his wife. Make sure that you do not break your promise to be faithful to your wife."
Mal 2:17 You have tired the LORD out with your talk. But you ask, "How have we tired him?" By saying, "The LORD Almighty thinks all evildoers are good; in fact he likes them." Or by asking, "Where is the God who is supposed to be just?"

Lets take a look at the first part of this chapter of scripture where He speaks of what He will do to the disobediant in the things He is addressing, which aimed towards the men who were marrying women who were not Christian, as well as men leaving their wives of covenant.

I had a stander ask me to scripturally give her something to take to her pastor that shows that her husband divorcing her and marrying the other women, that this marriage with this other women is not a covenant marriage and God will not acknowledge it as such.

Well, first of all, like we just took from the word above, Jesus told them that divorce was allowed only for hardening of hearts. Again, as I point out everytime I go over this scripture, that hearts is plural, not singular, meaning all it takes is one of those two hearts to be willing to reconcile and it shall be done. There has to be a hardening of both hearts, so I say to this stander that since she is standing, loves her husband and is working with the Lord to restore her marriage, then God is still honoring her marriage with her husband as convenant, and anyone else that he is with right now is done so in adultery. God does not honor a marriage of adultery, it is just what it is, adultery period, not a marriage.

Mar 10:5 And Jesus answered and said to them, He wrote you this precept because of the hardness of your hearts. (HEARTS)
Mar 10:6 But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.
Mar 10:7 For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife.
Mar 10:8 And the two of them shall be one flesh. So then they are no longer two, but one flesh.
Mar 10:9 Therefore what God has joined together, let not man put apart. (LET MAN NOT SEPARATE!) AND THIS MEANS MAN, WOMAN, ADULTERESS, LAWYER, JUDGE AND SATAN HIMSELF!

Lets look at some other scripture that is black and white about divorcing and marrying another.

Rom 7:2 For the married woman was bound by law to the living husband. But if the husband is dead, she is set free from the law of her husband.
Rom 7:3 So then if, while the husband liveth, she be joined to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if the husband die, she is free from the law, so that she is no adulteress, though she be joined to another man.

Mar 10:11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
Mar 10:12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

Mat 5:32 But I say to you that everyone who puts away his wife for any other cause but the loss of her virtue, makes her false to her husband; and whoever takes her as his wife after she is put away, is no true husband to her.
Mat 5:32 But now I tell you: if a man divorces his wife for any cause other than her unfaithfulness, then he is guilty of making her commit adultery if she marries again; and the man who marries her commits adultery also.
AND REMEMBER WHAT JESUS SAID IN THE BOOK OF MARK, HERE AGAIN IN MATTHEW HE GOES ON TO EXPLAIN AGAIN.....

Mat 19:3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
Mat 19:4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
Mat 19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
Mat 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Mat 19:7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
Mat 19:8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
Mat 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

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Luk 16:18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.

1Co 7:27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.

1Co 7:39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.

Exo 21:10 If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish.

Heb 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

So what is there to argue I ask? Is Gods word not clear enough on divorce and remarriage? He hates it bottom line.

It is not that hard to figure out. God hates divorce and there really is no excuse for it. A hardened heart is a unforgiving heart, and a unforgiving heart is a sinful heart, God does not honor sin of any kind, He fowns on it, hates sin, and whomever lives in sin is not of God, is not living for God, honoring God, walking with God, obeying Gods laws and commands, and is living in death, heading for the grave, for the pit of hell. There is not way to twist it and make it fit in another way.

There is a difference in what a man does in ignorance of Gods laws. When a man does not know God and he lives by the ways of the world, then he finds God and gives his life over to God, he is forgiven for all he done before that point, and will not be held accountable, his sins are washed away, cast out into the sea and no more. But a man who knows God, he is no longer ignorant and there is no excuse for what he does in sin, he will be judged for it, and our spouses who know God, who are prodigals and backslidden, they are in trouble for sure and Gods hand is upon them and it is not going to be pleasent, you can be assured of that. God will shake the sin from their lives and save them again if we stand and pray for them.

God bless...